The nine suitcases tumbled off the Air France carousel. Add my carry-on and Luke’s dog crate and my bichon and I were ready to begin our adventure. David patiently loaded our gear into his Ford RS2000, silently calculating how he would transfer them onto the Berreti and where we might possibly find places to store all my stuff. Thrilled that his girlfriend and her puppy were moving to Paris to live with him, he wasn’t sure he had cleared enough room for them on his 25-meter (75 foot) péniche, moored on the Right Bank in front of Place de la Concorde.
I was nervous too. I had first discovered his boat nearly two years before, the weekend when I met David. Since then, our midlife love affair had included not only his 14 trips to the United States, but also my 10 return visits to Paris, all over a period of 22 months. I stayed with him on the Berreti during visits as short as three nights and as long as the luxurious two weeks in July the previous summer. That was the trip when we had intended to travel the waterways, only to discover that frozen pipes the previous winter had damaged the diesel engine. David had unhooked water, electricity and phone lines and, after he cast off the ropes and had us heading upstream, he invited me to drive. As I steered the boat eastward under Pont Neuf, alongside Notre Dame, past Ile St. Louis, David monitored the needle on the heat gauge as it rose into the red zone.
“It’s moving a bit too rapidly. Either the gauge is broken or the engine is overheating. Maybe the winter freeze did some damage to the motor. I need to take the wheel.”
He steered us to the bank of the river and tied up alongside the Jardin des Plantes. He knew that getting help on the long Bastille Day weekend would be difficult to impossible. After our picnic lunch on the quay, he made a U-turn and guided us back to our parking spot, moored alongside the yacht Christina, as the Orangerie cast a gentle shadow on that late afternoon. I never did get to explore France from its waterways, navigating through locks and discovering riverside villages, as David had done with his sons every summer over the previous 16 years.
David lovingly took care of the basic needs of his barge. He polished the brass fittings and buffed the pine paneling that had been salvaged from a 200-year-old Dutch church when the boat, built in Utrecht in 1928, was converted from a working barge in 1967. He ran the motor at regular intervals to recharge the batteries for the 24-volt internal circuit, the only source of electricity when the boat was disconnected from the electricity supplied on the quay, and kept an eye on the propane gas tanks that needed periodic replacement as well as the fuel oil tank for heating, deliveries made from the river. He faced the constant challenge of finding artisans who could repair a leak in the roof, a broken toilet pump, the pipes and radiators that had burst the previous Christmas when he had spent two weeks in the USA with me and Paris had suffered an unusually lengthy cold spell. He watched the level of the Seine so that he could rearrange the ropes that moored the boat to the quay as needed and, when the river threatened to overflow its banks, he moved his car to higher ground and rigged a rope system to ferry the rowboat to the quay, so that when the Seine overflowed he could make his way to the office by an alternate route – down from the barge to the rowboat to the quay, up the ladder to Place de la Concorde, then on to Boulevard Malesherbes.
After we agreed that I would move to Paris, David carted bags of clothing and cartons of books from the Berreti to the American Church in Paris for their annual rummage sale. He moved personal and professional papers to his office for confidentiality. He carefully measured the space on a shelf along the lengthy corridor from the living room to the captain’s sleeping cabin, and went to BHV where he purchased four unfinished three-drawer wood pieces. In an act of love, commitment, and insanity, he carried the four small but very heavy chests, two tied together and hanging from each arm, all the way home, from BHV to his boat, the length of the Seine from the Hotel de Ville to Concorde. (He admitted his arms were sore the next day.) By the time I arrived a week later, the four little drawer units formed a bank of orderly personal protectors awaiting my most private belongings. They looked like built-ins. In the weeks that followed, I located Styrofoam insulation at Castorama, the Home Depot of Paris, installed it behind them, and attached a border of colorful fabric to the edge of the shelves where they sat. I had always found decorating irresistible.
When I moved to Paris to live with David, bringing Luke along for his first encounter with the culture that was in his bichon DNA, I had left most of my real furniture and other belongings in my Connecticut house, watched over by my responsible adult daughter. I was not ready to sell our home until I knew that David and I, in our fifties, somewhat set in our ways, and adapted to very different cultures, could actually live together in relative harmony. In a small space. On a houseboat.
That Sunday morning in January of 1998, we arrived at the entrance to the quay, just before Pont Alexandre III. David drove his car down the ramp and over the cobblestones and parked it on the quay alongside the Christina. We transferred my belongings onto the Berreti. David tucked Luke securely under his arm and carried him into the driving cabin. I joined them. My puppy and I were home.
This was Luke’s first visit to the boat. His intense curiosity took over and he sniffed each nook and cranny. He scampered down the staircase to the kitchen and then two more steps to the living room, where he was intrigued by the brick fireplace with its wrought iron hood, the exotic furnishings, and the trunk filled with bottles of liquors from regions across France. He needed a week to learn how to jump up onto the unusually high built-in bed, accessing his own special nook beneath an underhang, by himself. He slept alongside us at night. Initially, he feared climbing the difficult steps from the kitchen to the driving cabin. We knew it was their surface rather than their lack of a back when, with David’s assistance, he hopped right up the open iron rungs of the ladder that joined the quay to the sidewalk above. He instinctively knew when he needed to be carried – along the plank from the Berreti to the Christina, onto the quay, through the intersections at Place de la Concorde. He learned to identify sounds of our comings and goings when he was left behind and gleefully welcomed us home. His street smarts were no less impressive: David taught him to wait for permission at crosswalks, to avoid tangling pedestrians in his leash, and to keep to one side past all sorts of sidewalk attractions and distractions. His finest accomplishment, however, was learning to be off the leash and run at full speed in the Tuileries, the Invalides, along the Cour de la Reine. Unless it was his admirable manners in restaurants. Not surprisingly, he loved the latter, especially when a waiter would ask, “Would monsieur prefer red meat or white? Haricots verts or frîtes?” He usually got both.
I was surprised how much I loved living on the relatively small barge. Each challenge had its overriding benefit:
- Storage spaces were limited, so I organized clothes and kitchen carefully, mindful of frequency of use. I wore only clothes I loved or needed for warmth and we purchased food that was fresh and prepared it mindfully. We mastered the art of decluttering years before Marie Kondo wrote her bestseller.
- Only one of us could shower or wash up at once, promoting awareness of each other’s needs and a template for teamwork. Because we had both been living alone, this benefit may have been the best the Berreti bestowed upon us.
- The organization created by a long-time bachelor differed from that of a long-time homemaker, but David was a saint about clearing out spaces for me, sharing others, and welcoming my notions of “kitchen”, “pantry”, “laundry”. After we washed a load of linens in the washing machine that sat alongside the freezer, near the sink with the Dutch hand-painted bowl, at the front end of the boat (the toilet and shower were at the opposite end), we strung a clothesline the length of the living room, laughing because we knew it was temporary. The radiators worked well; we knew all would dry overnight. Our weekly ritual symbolized our going with the flow, making room for maintenance and then clearing the space it demanded to refill it with joy.
- The built-in nook that nestled our full-size extra-firm mattress rendered the bed hard to change, but transported us at night into a cocoon that functioned like a super water-bed. All three of us slept like babies on the gently rocking boat.
- The layout of the Berreti meant that we walked its length frequently. From the driving cabin, we watched gorgeous sunrises over the Seine and the spires of Notre Dame in the morning and the sky turn to blues and golds and bronzes as it set behind the Eiffel Tower at dusk. At night, the street and bridge lights reflected on the water and gold, silver, bronze and copper were interspersed with red and green from stoplights, providing yet another form of art in motion.
- Our location in the center of Paris guaranteed exercise from walking everywhere and helped us pay no attention to calories that might accompany an île flottante or profiteroles au chocolat. The inconvenience of crossing the neighbor’s boat in order to board our own became insignificant. Any direction we walked from the boat offered Parisian delights and adventures. Mere minutes took us to rue Saint Dominique or rue Cler for shopping, to the Musée d’Orsay for breathtaking art, to the Champs Elysées for entertainment, in front of boutiques filled with eye candy on rue Boissy d’Anglas en route to the office, or along rue de Rivoli as we headed to the arcades near the Palais Royale or to the Marché St. Honoré. We watched as Luke ran through the Tuileries, some of the most magnificent scenery in Paris surrounding us.
- But we did not even have to leave the barge to be transported by magnificent scenery. Watching the traffic on the river was an unexpected source of entertainment: groups of rowdy teens yelling to hear their echoes as they rode under the Pont de la Concorde on Bateaux Mouches; sophisticated private soirées on the Yachts de Paris, a new luxury line catering to small elite groups; fully unloaded barges returning from their labors and thus light enough to reveal their more personal quarters. Occasionally a police or fire or pleasure boat would glide by. We could watch out our windows to cheer on Parisians participating in the annual kayak race in the spring, or watch the Tour de France round Place de la Concorde from on our deck in the summer.
- Finally, life on the Berreti brought with it membership in a community unique in an urban center. Of the 48 boats in our group, only one other belonged to an American, one to a Brit. We were international in origin, eclectic in taste, diverse in occupations and interests, and shared the passion of living as close to the water – and the reflections that dance along it – as one can get.
Implicit in our commonality were two truths. The first was obvious: The natural beauty of light and water nourish the soul. The second was subtler, but perhaps more essential: Permanence is an illusion; change is continual; to live clinging to a false sense of security confuses the roots embedded in personal histories with destinies written deep into each soul. Our home was movable. Living on the Berreti brought perspective and gratitude, even as we sometimes struggled with space, organization, maintenance, and logistics. Isn’t engaging the process what makes life worthwhile? And, for David and me and for Luke, what made our life so much fun.
Author Roni Beth Tower will be leading a discussion “Love When You Least Expect It” at the American Library in Paris at 4:30 PM on Sunday, February 11th, just in time for Valentine’s Day. And she will be speaking about her book at Adrian Leeds’ Après Midi on February 13, 2018. You can visit her at www.miracleatmidlife.com
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